Ellie Simmonds, MSc
University of Bath, Psychology
Ellie Simmonds, MSc in Psychology from University of Bath. Ellie is an associate lecturer on psychometric assessments and has extensive knowledge of the 16-type model.
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ENTPs are growth-focused, and this applies to relationships as well. They use their creative innovation talents with their partners. Never one to walk the beaten path, an ENTP will find new and exciting ways to bring love and joy into their relationships.
ENTPs see relationships as opportunities to grow and improve with a partner. Loyal and committed partners, ENTPs prefer to be around others, and they'll use their conversational wit to keep those they are attracted to interested. The most critical criterion sought in their partner is having an intellectual curiosity that can keep pace with their own.
An ENTP type is likely to:
ENTPs will have a repository of fun, new things to do.
ENTP personalities won't feel satisfied with routine and monotony in work or in a relationship. Instead, they'll seek out partners that are willing to roll with the spontaneity they crave. Their need to go against the grain of convention will lead to notable dates. Their conversational skills are sharp, and they'll use these skills to keep their date engaged, and on their toes, and they'll expect the ideal partner to be able to return jokes at a similar pace.
Finding a partner is an important facet of the ENTPs’ personal growth model.
As a relationship matures, the ENTP will want to explore the depths of their partners through shared experience. Shared exposure to the unknown checks two necessary boxes for the ENTP: having an opportunity to grow and sharing that growth with their partner.
|Beneficial dating traits||Negative dating traits|
|Inclined to communicate directly.||Can be emotionally tone-deaf.|
|Adds spontaneous and creative elements.||Playing devil's advocate can make them appear combative.|
|Witty and charismatic with brimming enthusiasm.||Their ever-present enthusiasm can be overwhelming.|
|They expose their partners to new experiences.||Not keen on exploring their own emotional needs.|
|Open-minded of other opinions and perspectives.||Can be quick to move on if their interests aren't piqued.|
The ENTP seeks a partner that can keep up with their intellectual rigor and spontaneous excitement. Ideal partners should hold their own in the conversation; more reserved personality types need not apply. If ENTPs partner with one another, there will be spirited debates over a range of topics. The challenge that can arise with two ENTPs is a collective aversion to discussing feelings, leading to an emotionally distant relationship.
Opposite personality types that are the most incompatible are sensing types, favoring senses and facts over the intuition of the ENTP. An ideal opposite for the ENTP would be one that can encourage the ENTPs' emotional development. As ENTPs are naturally curious and open to new experiences, this proclivity can serve them well when paired with a partner that can harness that energy into the ENTPs' emotional development.
Figure 1: ENTP partner compatibility
Percentage compatibility between ENTP and other types
What this chart shows
This chart shows an estimate of the compatibility between ENTP types and other types. We see that ENTP types are most likely to be compatible with other ENTPs, and least likely to be compatible with an ISFJ. This 'like-minds' effect is often the case (see Figure 2 below).Notes:
Figure 2: 16 type model partner compatibility
Percentage compatibility between the 16 factor model (Myers Briggs®) types
What this chart shows
This chart shows an estimate of the compatibility between Myers Briggs® types. Our research shows that the strongest match is usually with someone of the same type. Another general pattern we observe is extraverts are generally more compatible with other extraverts, and introverts are more compatible with other introverts. This data supports the adage "birds of a feather flock together” and discredits the often-quoted mantra "opposites attract".
Across almost all types, the most compatible combination is with someone of an identical type. Within this general trend, the degree of compatibility varies slightly. For example, the compatibility between two INFP types is very high (at 95%) whereas the compatibility between two INTJs is 86%. The only exception to the observation that the best match is with someone of the same type is for ESFP types. The researchers note that ESFP types do still strongly favor other extraverts.Notes:
ENTPs make great partners that push their counterparts to learn, explore, and experience new things. ENTPs, like all personalities, have their strengths and opportunities. Playing to strengths and acknowledging areas of improvement sets the stage for a successful relationship.
As a partner of an ENTP, your experience will be anything but boring. ENTPs want to understand the world around them, why things are the way they are, and that will extend to you as well. They'll be a continuous source of free-spirited and adventurous events for you to share. Embracing their positives is generally easy, and understanding their potential pitfalls will help you receive them with appropriate context.
ENTPs view friendships differently than many other personality types. They don't seek emotional support or loyalty first, but rather the ability to mentally spar to the same degree. The joy for ENTP personality types is exploring ideas by debating for or against them, breaking them down to understand them better, and finding counterpoints to new information. A true friend to the ENTP is someone they can share this experience with and someone they can trust not to take their intellectual rigor personally. After all, the ENTP may be vigorously arguing for a point they don't even believe in.
Ideas are meant to be dissected with friends.
As skilled debaters and communicators, ENTPs have no trouble tailoring their conversational style to meet the audience of other personality types. Their sharp wit and clever wordplay make them fun to have around whenever a conversation is possible. This propensity for discussion doesn't mean they sit around all day; on the contrary, ENTPs will have friendships with people that also like to push their own boundaries through new experiences. Anyone willing to hike an unexplored trail, visit a new city, or eat an adventurous meal will have a seat at the ENTP table - provided they can keep up with the conversation in the meantime.
New experiences offer the greatest potential for one's self to grow.
The greatest challenge faced by ENTP friendships stems from the lack of interest the ENTP places on their own emotions. Because the ENTP lets logic reign supreme in their decision-making and feedback-receiving process, they mistakenly presume others do and feel the same. This assumption can cause others to misunderstand the ENTP as cold, unfeeling, or rude. ENTPs prefer candid feedback that others may find harsh. Similarly, they appreciate having their ideas dismantled, so they earn a deeper understanding and are tasked with creating new counterpoints to address those faults - the thought of which makes many other personalities cringe. Their direct communication coupled with an ability to pick apart others' ideas can be poorly received by personality types that rely more heavily on emotion than logic. Recognizing this blind spot can help the charm and wit of the ENTP outshine any emotional shortfall.
ENTPs would be wise to acknowledge others leverage feelings more than they do.
Still, ENTPs are great friends to those willing and interested in self-improvement. The ENTP will push their friends to confront the faults of held ideals, try new things, and deepen their understanding of the world around them.
Paradoxically, ENTPs can be seen as charming and aloof. Channeling the desire for growth into the emotional areas of opportunity will help the ENTP improve relations.
As an ENTP, this is what can be done to improve relationships with other people:
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