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Page contents:

• - INFJ relationship principles
• - INFJ dating
• - INFJ partner compatibility
• - Data: INFJ compatibility matrix
• - INFJ dating advice
• - INFJ friendships

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INFJs have a heartfelt wish for sincere relationships. People with this personality type prefer to nurture a close circle of confidants than endure connections for convenience. Similarly, an INFJ want to surround themselves with those that uplift them – negative people are not healthy for INFJs. They yearn for and rely on discoveries to strengthen their bonds with those closest to them. In their withdrawn way, INFJ Types see beyond appearances and try to understand people on a deeper level.

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A sense of integrity and human development guide the INFJ personality type. In an INFJ relationship, they eagerly support the ambitions and accomplishments of their nearest and dearest. With their innate ability to be creative problem-solvers, they strive to maintain harmony in their relationships. They investigate far within the emotional core of an issue to reach common grounds. However, an INFJ's core ethics drive their actions. They tend to be unwilling to compromise when an idea feels fake to them.

An INFJ will likely:

• Have high standards for their relationships
• Only share more of their lives as trust grows.
• Choose genuine, honest, and sincere relationships.
• Have a deep desire that goes beyond the physical.

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INFJ Types tend to be serious about romantic relationships. Seeing as they seek profound meaning, they prefer a match built on true love. They feel content when they can share their deep-seated feelings and thoughts with their partner. As a result, INFJs take longer to find a compatible partner. This fact can make them seem choosy to others, but they will likely wait for a suitable partner than settle for a shallow relationship.

An INFJ's ability to empathize builds strong bonds of intimacy – a personality trait among their greatest strengths. They use this gift to build rapport with their partner and value when it is reciprocated. The natural flow from their extraverted Feeling makes them excellent listeners who genuinely care about others and want to connect with them.

An INFJ's need for emotional intimacy can often lead them to feeling trapped in one-sided relationships. In other words, their partner takes more than they give. Unfortunately, such entanglement often leads to exhaustion and so it can be beneficial to seek a more balanced INFJ relationship. An INFJ thrives in a relationship with someone who willingly respects their boundaries and emotional needs.

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INFJs feel an easy rapport with personality types that share their general approach to life. They do not necessarily have to agree on everything but a good balance of commonalities, openness, and challenging moments present potential unity.

Conflict is unlikely within a double INFJ relationship. Even when they disagree, they will approach difficulties with similar compassion to reach harmonious equilibrium. However, no magic formula exists to ensure a successful INFJ relationship. INFJ/INFJ partners may find it difficult to "agree to disagree" due to both having rigid beliefs. But when they let their empathetic superpowers guide them, they will reconnect – even strengthen their dual INFJ relationship.

Figure 1: INFJ partner compatibility

Percentage compatibility between INFJ and other types

What this chart shows

This chart shows an estimate of the compatibility between INFJ types and other types. We see that INFJ types are most likely to be compatible with other INFJs, and least likely to be compatible with an ESTP. This 'like-minds' effect is often the case (see Figure 2 below).

Notes:

• 1. n=3297
• 2. Population: Global
• 3. Live dataset last updated: 21 October 2022
• 4. The questionnaire asked participants to select the traits that they favor when thinking about their ideal romantic partner, and the traits were mapped to each of the 16 types.

Figure 2: 16 type model partner compatibility

Percentage compatibility between the 16 factor model (Myers Briggs®) types

What this chart shows

This chart shows an estimate of the compatibility between Myers Briggs® types. Our research shows that the strongest match is usually with someone of the same type. Another general pattern we observe is extraverts are generally more compatible with other extraverts, and introverts are more compatible with other introverts. This data supports the adage "birds of a feather flock together” and discredits the often-quoted mantra "opposites attract".

Across almost all types, the most compatible combination is with someone of an identical type. Within this general trend, the degree of compatibility varies slightly. For example, the compatibility between two INFP types is very high (at 95%) whereas the compatibility between two INTJs is 86%. The only exception to the observation that the best match is with someone of the same type is for ESFP types. The researchers note that ESFP types do still strongly favor other extraverts.

Notes:

• 1. n=3297
• 2. Population: Global
• 3. Live dataset last updated: 21 October 2022
• 4. The questionnaire asked participants to select the traits that they favor when thinking about their ideal romantic partner, and the traits were mapped to each of the 16 types.

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As natural-born nurturers, INFJs tend to give much more than they take. But even while they prefer it this way, an INFJ should remember to express their boundaries. Mindfully, INFJs can both challenge and affirm their approach to avoid misadventures in love.

As an INFJ

• Be open and honest about your expectations from the start.
• Allow yourself time to process your thoughts before responding
• Lower your guard slightly, but not your standards.
• Take your time to decipher your feelings for the other person.
• Try not to absorb the subtlest cues of every interaction.
• Avoid drawing conclusions beforehand based on past relationships.
• Try not to idealize a perfect relationship with someone.
• Try not to overanalyze what went wrong.

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In truth, INFJs tend to be confusing people with deeply complex emotions. No matter how resolute and strong the INFJ in your life seems, they carry inner tenderness that requires attentive care. With little acts of kindness, you can engage with your INFJ partner on a profound level they will undoubtedly appreciate.

Dating an INFJ advice

• Regularly check in on your INFJ to show them you care.
• Try to notice and appreciate the odd intricacies of their personality.
• Give them time and space to decompress so they can continue to be their best selves.
• Give your INFJ some comic relief, especially when they feel tense.
• Allow a safe space for them to vocalize their unfiltered thoughts.
• Cherish their good-hearted nature.
• Avoid worldly distractions from interfering whilst spending time with them.
• Try not to be alarmed when your INFJ becomes withdrawn or moody.

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The INFJ personality type often struggles to find a suitable circle of friends. The reason for this is that INFJs generally take friendships seriously. They invest precious time and energy into every relationship they welcome into their lives. And although INFJs are social introverts, they cherish quality social interaction but with smaller social circles.

Within their sensitive nature, INFJs have a unique charm that lures people into opening up. But they rarely open up right away in return. Instead, INFJs take their time to learn about the other person and slowly reveal themselves over a long period.

INFJs show their true colors and shine during one-on-one interactions and might even talk your ears off.

In their reserved nature, the INFJ counts on their intuition to guide them, but this may often manifest into fear. Doubt and a lack of self-confidence could hold them back from saying “Yes” to inspiring opportunities. An INFJ may be closed off at first to explore the friendship's potential, but it will be worth the wait. When an INFJ claims someone as their friend, they are in it forever. No amount of physical distance or communication gaps will make them stray. They are loyal and will move mountains for their friends.

In contrast, a confusing and controversial moment occurs when the rare personality type exercises their infamous INFJ door slam. In other words, when someone deeply and repeatedly wounds an INFJ, they attempt to wipe all traces of the person from their life. It may seem melodramatic, but for an INFJ, it is rarely the case. Usually, the door slam happens as a last resort. With their caring and patient nature, they tend to forgive the shortcomings of others. But when they reach that intolerable point and no longer see resolution, they slam the door.

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While the INFJ personality type may be reliable and understanding, they may end the relationship when they feel underappreciated. INFJ's should keep in mind that not all personality types require deep emotional engagement.

As an INFJ, try these to improve relationships with other people:

• When someone challenges their core beliefs, the INFJ should try to be more willing to compromise.
• As a result of focusing on others and neglecting themselves, INFJ's tend to become explosive. Therefore, this personality type must release the pressure in the form of a healthy rant.
• Often, INFJs experience separation anxiety that makes them feel compelled to fix issues. They should try not to take the actions of others personally and instead practice the patience they use to support people.
• An INFJ's unrealistically high expectations might push people away. It is best not to expect a perfect relationship. They should let people be who they are and not overwhelm them with their eagerness to grow.
• An INFJ's desire to nurture others often overshadows their own needs and makes them feel isolated. They should remember to voice their needs to help the people around them understand their inner conflicts and wishes.

 

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Ellie Simmonds, MSc

University of Bath, Psychology

Ellie Simmonds, MSc in Psychology from University of Bath. Ellie is an associate lecturer on psychometric assessments and has extensive knowledge of the 16-type model.

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